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I think that if the biological parents of their child want to remain anonymous for whatever reason. then they should be able to retain that right. This is a very sensitive subject, but ultimately what's best for the child is the most important thing.
I think that once they reach a certain age, like 18, they should be handed information on their biological parents, because those who don't know them might develop some issues and cause distress.
For medical purposes, knowing the biological parents (and their genetic makeup, history, etc.) can be the difference between life and death. I truly feel, however, that the child has the right to make that decision.
Yea, once they hit 18, they must know who their parents are.
well i think that they should be told so that they can live knowing … i mean sure the relationship with the adoptive parents might change but if they where introduced to and actually got to know there bio parents then the parents might realize that they made a mistake in giving the child up for adoption
It's not so cut and dry. What if an individual isn't the sort that could handle such knowledge? The question should be, do biological parents have the right to contact the children they've given up? I'd say no!
Anonymity of the parents is a fine thing if thats what they want. But a detailed medical history of both the mother and father(if possible) should be included with adoption, or at least delivered at age 18; earlier if the child develops some genetic disorder. If your biological parents don't want to find you, or you don't want to know them thats fine. But there is important medical information that really should be shared.
agreed!
But why is it imporatant to the child? I think it’s more of a curoisity than genuinely wanting them. Do we really have to playcate them?
i dont think that is right because the child doesnt have the falt of what the parents did
no 15 is a good age because they are matture enough
yes doogie i agree with u
if it changes that there problem but if it does the child has the rights to choose
well to pt447 i say yes it there child they made it no matter what
me 2
If the biological parents want to leave their identity a secret then that’s their choice, but the children have the right to know their family’s medical history and their geneological history…
I think children should have the right to know because it gives them a source of psychological security in knowing where they come from. Im not saying that they should rely on their boilogical parents but im saying they at least have a right to know who they are.I know sometimes parents have a good reason to put their kids up for adoption but i dont think their identity should be kept a secret from their own children!
In some instances, they need to know their parents history. If there are risks for, say, breast cancer, or other types of sicknesses, it helps (a lot) to know your family history in that respect.
thats true..but i am a adopted child and it would be very painful for me if i found out my parents didnt want me to be able to contact them.
Why? They didn’t want to be a part of your life now, and if they still don’t why is that a surprise? It’s obviously its nothing personal seeing as they don’t even know you. Maybe I’m being a bit insensitive, but I fail to see how that would be painful. My uncle was adopted and he made no attempt to find his parents because his real parents were the ones who feed and clothed and loved him, meeting a couple of strangers would not serve a purpose.
The adopted child has a right to at least know who their biological parents are. I mean, what happens when they’re supposed to make a family tree for school, and they don’t have anything because they don’t have info on their real parents? I’m doing a research\persuasive essay on this topic, and I need opinions!:)
I think that children need as much information as they can regarding their biological family.
Children should know who their biological parents because of disease related things that they could have genetically gotten from their parents.
i have read all your comments. And I don’t think that it’s fair for the child to not know their biological parents. Doesn’t anybody know how hurtful that child would be if he/she did not know who their real parents were? Whoever, thinks that the child shoudn’t be able to see their real parents needs to get a life. Before you say anyting else about this subject think about how much pain, lost and confussion that child might have.!!!
I think the child only has the right if both the biological parents and the child want to know. People say does the child have the right, but the parents have rights too.
Adoptees are people, not pets.
Plenty of parents have decided to do many harmful things to their children. Many people decide that it is perfectly fine to indoctrinate their children into Sharia Law and even have honor killings – are they afforded this right because they happen to be a legal guardian? Other parents deny their children doctors because of faith based reasons… Here's a tip – not all adoptive parents are nice people.
My point is simple – daddy doesn't always know best. To deny a child their heritage, their family and their ancestral knowledge is an atrocity and one that should be stopped. People have the right to know where they came from. Perhaps the adoptive/biological parents will have issues, so what – it's par for the course.
*knock-knock-knock- wake up, it's reality calling*
To deny a child, and later an adult, their rights because it might upset the apple cart is insane. Where does the voice of the child come into play? After-all, they were the one passed around like cattle and given from one person to the next – why does their voice not count for anything?
While adoption may be a beautiful gift for those who adopt the children, and even the child as we are not murdered by abortion – it is a nightmare full of questions and angst for those us of us who have been denied our culture, our heritage, and our family.
Do you have any idea what it's like to not know who you laugh like? Who you smile like? Where your mannerisms come from? Or what about your intellect, whit and charm? Do you have any idea what it's like to wonder what your parents look like? What they do for a living? Wondering if, "hey maybe that's them" as you pass people on the street? Or siblings – do you know what it's like to wonder if you have brothers or sisters and whether or not they even know of your very existence? What about love; do you know how hard it is to trust someone after being abandoned by your parents?
Good God, you non-adoptees are absolutely clueless as to what adoptees go through! Yet you are always there with your judgement and your oppressive laws! Like somehow you have the right to dictate my future when plenty of people have already dictated my past! Step off my rights!
Everyone had a God given right to know who put them on this earth and why. Sealed records are a short lived bad practice that was put into place to from lobbiests from private adoption agencies that make 29000 dollars off newborn white babies. With generations of adoptees, now grown and speaking out we know that sealing records and closed adoption are profoundly painful to the adoptee and their natural families. These archaic laws need to be changed
I am adopted my dad dieed wheb j was young and my mum gve me up I’m now 13 and last saw my mum 10 years ago I think we have the right to know who are parents are alot of u know ur parents but us kids tht are adopted dont and it’s not fair u don’t know what it’s like